I really like how you talk about blur as an example of a band whose members have worked toward some kind of understanding of themselves and acceptance with each other because it's really rare. There are so many bands that haven't done that work, refuse to that work, can't do that work for many reasons, and it's borderline toxic for fans to expect it just because others have.
Amazing read. Can relate to the infantilized friends out there. I’ve often referred to it as arrested development. It’s really hard to find your way to mental health when most of your existence is based on praise of a character locked in a certain persona and life that cannot shift, as it’s tied to the image or song. For example, Mountain Size (fill in your favorite ever song here) will never change. It’s a frozen element stuck in time. Audience expects the performance to be what they remember, creating a feedback loop. And when a performer has been in that cycle for decades the effects can very bad.
I think music and acting are especially brutal in that regard.
But maybe we are all like that to an extent. We are creatures of our experience, and either grow from them or stagnate and wind up playing a casino lip syncing tunes you sang 60 years ago ala Frankie Valli https://youtube.com/shorts/A-VT_dvjtPY?si=wEUfZPzDh_F0SdCB
It's exaxtly why I used that and was floored by that doc. I mean, Black Crowes, Oasis, etc. it's part of the appeal that they'd fight and I find it sad.
I really like how you talk about blur as an example of a band whose members have worked toward some kind of understanding of themselves and acceptance with each other because it's really rare. There are so many bands that haven't done that work, refuse to that work, can't do that work for many reasons, and it's borderline toxic for fans to expect it just because others have.
Amazing read. Can relate to the infantilized friends out there. I’ve often referred to it as arrested development. It’s really hard to find your way to mental health when most of your existence is based on praise of a character locked in a certain persona and life that cannot shift, as it’s tied to the image or song. For example, Mountain Size (fill in your favorite ever song here) will never change. It’s a frozen element stuck in time. Audience expects the performance to be what they remember, creating a feedback loop. And when a performer has been in that cycle for decades the effects can very bad.
I think music and acting are especially brutal in that regard.
But maybe we are all like that to an extent. We are creatures of our experience, and either grow from them or stagnate and wind up playing a casino lip syncing tunes you sang 60 years ago ala Frankie Valli https://youtube.com/shorts/A-VT_dvjtPY?si=wEUfZPzDh_F0SdCB
Change is hard but necessary and when you're serving others and not yourself, change will be harder or nonexistent.
It's exaxtly why I used that and was floored by that doc. I mean, Black Crowes, Oasis, etc. it's part of the appeal that they'd fight and I find it sad.